It may seem antiquated to walk a girl to her door at the end of a date; to insist on meeting her father and gain his approval; to pull the chair out for her at a restaurant, but when it comes down to it being a gentleman never goes out of style.
Though digital communication is the norm, reverting to traditional expressions of gratitude and romance can go a long way. Chivalry is not dead; millennials and the like just need to modernize it. Sometimes you should go the extra mile, be thoughtful and do the little things. Cleaning the house if he/she’s had a stressful day. Surprise her at the office with flowers and her favorite Thin Mint Girl Scout cookies. Don’t just be a nice date, be a the best P.I.C. someone could ever ask for.
Things Gentlemen Naturally Do
1. Send flowers – For special occasions or just because you want to do something special. Flowers are THE classic way to show that you care. Send Mother’s Day flowers. Send birthday flowers. It doesn’t matter when and you definitely don’t need a reason.
2. Open doors – Even if it means walking quickly for the last couple of steps before reaching the door. Open it AND HOLD IT OPEN for anyone within reasonable vicinity to walk through. Show that your sphere of politeness extends to people you may not know.
3. Remember details – names, dates and people. After a conversation, make a list in your phone. Make a Google Calendar reminder for anything significant. Take notes after about her favorite flower, color, type of pasta, TV show, and anything else that is relevant to her (even if it doesn’t seem relevant to you).
4. Give up your jacket – Rain, cold, wind, fog, whatever. If someone else is cold, be a man and give him or her your coat, even if it is only temporary (waiting for the train or standing in line for tickets). The tiny gesture go a long way towards improving humanity.
5. Put your phone away – At dinner turn it off. This goes for women too. It is okay to check out from the Facebook, Email, Txt message world and only pay attention to someone else. Anytime food is present your phone should be OFF or on Silent. During movies, dates, picnics, walks in the park, etc. don’t let push notifications get in the way of what could and should be a special moment. Make memories, dang it!
6. Speak eloquently – Both in person and txt/email. Take pride in elevated grammar. It pays off in the long run. Regardless your age ‘swag’ is not on the list of qualities that makes someone “husband material.”
7. Show compassion – To elderly, children, animals, coworkers, strangers, environment and everything else. Having a strong but kind heart towards others is a true sign that you’re a good human being.
8. Keep promises – Big and small. Fixing the sink and mowing the yard are key day-to-day things to follow through on. Never turning your back on someone and being emotionally available are promises that are sometimes tougher. But gentlemen keep their word. They keep their promises.
9. Surprise often – Among everything, random acts of kindness can turn someone’s day around. Give Mom a call out of the blue. Surprise your girlfriend at the office with flowers. Make surprise dinner reservations at his favorite restaurant. Plan a weekend trip without telling her, then come Friday have a bag packed and whisk her away for a romantic weekend!
Cassic gentlemen, we at TheBouqs tip our hats to you. Go forth and be one of the most kind-hearted, romantic, Clooney-est guys out there. Send flowers and surprise often!